Mirror

How do you see yourself?

Are you a kitty who sees herself as a lion, or are you a lion who sees himself as a kitty?

I guess, sometimes how we see ourselves depends on the mirrors that we are looking into. Do you remember those mirrors in fun houses that make some distorted reflections? Those that make us look tall and skinny like a string or fat and short like a ball! It all depended on the mirror that you’re looked into.

I was reading an interesting article, which was about psycological issues, when suddenly I got paralyzed by reading this sentence that:

”Some of the most important mirrors in our lives aren't mirrors at all. They are other people”.

It got me in deep thinking. That is so truely correct, others could give us a glimpse of ourselves. One of this mirroring that happened to me a lot is through the things people tell me like: ”I like your hair today”, ”Oh... you are wearing...that?” .or imagine yourself presenting something in front of a group of people, some people are sleeping, some are nodding and make eye contacts, some are taking notes and so on... That is interesting, the same as fun mirrors that give us distorted reflections so can other people.

When I thought more and more I realized that we have ”person mirrors” everwhere in our lives and that would be necessary to examine them carefully in order to make the life more ground and smooth for ourselves maybe. When we are at work for example, I guess organizations mirror people with compensation, recognition, performance reviews and these kinds of things. And it is important that your boss mirror you accurately, this is important to know because we tend to hold the boss's opinion in pretty high regard because of the organizational authority that she or he holds over us. or among our family members and friends, I do not think that our partner, kids, or parents seeing all sides of us.They just mirror back to us the parts that they know. It is really great to have friends to reflect to us accurately for better or for worse, but ACCURATELY! It is so good to get mirrors by friends and family and get the ”hard truth”.

Do your friends tell you "the hard truths"? If not I think it is better to find someone who mirrors them for you. Conversely, we don't need friends who are just beating us up and taking from us all the time. If this is the kind of mirroring you get from friends, it's time for firm boundaries. We all need mirrors in our lives. Just make sure that they are showing you the real you.

M.M